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Children, Church and the Law

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Children at Risk. Whose Children are they?

We’d like to extend our sincere gratitude to Alexa Russell Matthews (MSW (Play Therapy) & BsocSc (Social work)) for her time leading a recent conversation held at The Warehouse. As an introduction, Alexa is a trustee of The Warehouse and has vast experience working with children and families across a number of organisations in South Africa and in Mozambique.

Alexa shared some thought provoking insights into our understanding of Children in hard places or Children at risk which we felt needed to be shared with you. This article will touch on a few of these insights as we consider our role as church leaders, guardians as well as parents.

When we refer to children being at risk, we infer that their rights constituted in the UN Declaration of Children’s Rights and our understanding of God given right is denied. These children are of indigent backgrounds, those living in poverty and socio-economic exploitation and neglect. Those who have been sexually exploited and those children who are kinless. There are various risk factors that underpin our understanding ‘risk’ like poverty; the vulnerable, undocumented, lacking life skills, negative parenting, education, rural syndrome where children are left with older caregivers who can’t cope with their holistic needs, bonded children, AIDS affect, crime; poor or no education, lack of nutrition, abuse and exploitation, drugs, delinquency and drop outs (driven by a lack of ECD), civil unrest, man-made disasters and natural disasters. As we consider these, what do we see driving this behaviour in our communities towards children and by children.

How do we consider children’s emotional and development needs and what do we do?

Often, many of us are wanting to remove children or take them out of their contexts. This is a band aid solution to a bigger problem, if we wanting to advocate for children, we need to be willing to work compassionately and skilfully with adults. Let’s stop pathologizing/ labelling children without exploring their context. Parents will know that parenthood is one of the most judged spaces on earth. It’s a space where we are expected to create platforms for children to thrive, grow and develop skills to manage life. Often, we ask parents who grew up in the same circumstances as their children do to do differently, without providing an alternative skill set. Darren Jones, US social worker says, “We can’t take away children’s coping and survival strategies without offering them another”.

Some survival strategies are harmful, we’re unable to access our emotions which then drive our behaviour because it’s too painful but then it means that many of us act out without insight and awareness. There are also adversities in life, we’ve seen horrific headlines specifically coming from fractured communities with generational trauma. Trauma that was man made. The injustice of apartheid meant that communities were torn apart, and without the choice to so called freedom, education and opportunity to keep prospering.

Many of the then children, now adults in our country were told to know their place and yet we ask families to dream dreams and pretend that this fracture didn’t happen. A fracture that as a nation we are still trying to repair.

People still get to make individual choices, but we need to realise that detachment, dismissiveness and trauma changes how we respond. Some of us get a better space and more opportunities to choose from than others in life – the difference between thriving and surviving.

How do we create spaces where adults can experience felt safety and from that experience communicate this to their children?

Here are some tips:

  1. Churches can respond with parenting support groups, ensuring that there is a sense of belonging, of pressing into people and not just seeing problems. When people come to church for, we help we look at hearts and find practical options to support, advocate and engage. We recognize that we are whole beings that need responses that mirror this.
  2. Organisations like The Warehouse, Bottom UP, LMF, Arise Family, New Day to name a few are coming at this from different angles – walking alongside, seeking critical engagement, looking at family strengthening and unpacking what hope looks like economically with skills.

How do we advocate for children in our and neighbouring communities, because they are our neighbours:

  1. Ask children what they need: Is it a soccer, drama, art, homework club? Is it someone who can tutor them or ensure that there is a desk to work at after school? (Outliers, The Sozo Foundation)
  2. Ask children what they need input on? Partner with schools in the area and get involved with organisations like The Life Matters Foundation.
  3. Find out what parents’ need support with: Positive Discipline is often highlighted, but again, how do we do this without recognising where we as parents are being triggered and bringing our own sense of hurt/ shame/ helplessness in response to our children because we don’t have the skills.
  4. Does your church have a child protection policy? Has everyone had police clearance prior to working with children? Do you know the Children’s Act? (Available at The Warehouse; resource book, presentations & workshops on Children, Church and the Law).
  5. What are you doing to build bridges with churches in communities that are different to yours? Are these positioned as “outreach” or learn from each other” spaces?
Order your copy of Children, Church and the Law at The Warehouse

As Christians, we want to set the standard for ensuring that all children’s rights are protected and that the potential of this legislation is met in our church ministries and communities. This book will help ensure that the work done by local congregations sets the standard for work with children in South Africa.

What makes this important? If we aren’t engaging and enabling children and young people to critically engage with the driving forces behind the systemic, structural and individual violence against children, we normalise the fact the world looks like it does. Too often we are scared to do this because we don’t have all the answers, we don’t want to depress our children and we want to protect their ‘innocence’ – yet at the same time we are asking our children to develop empathy and compassion.

Credit for presentation notes: Alexa Russell Matthews

Organisation Contact details:

  1. BottomUP: They promote active citizenship and participatory democracy with children and youth.
    1. Website: bottomup.org.za
    2. Call: (+27) 021 012 5365
    3. Email: info@bottomup.org.za
  2. Life Matters Foundation: Their LifeSkills Portfolio provides counselling, mentoring, camps and Teenage Awareness programmes to equip learners to thrive in the face of challenges of their context and adolescence, ad become active citizens.
    1. Website: lifemattersfoundation.org
    2. Call: 021 712 0383
    3. Email: admin@lifemattersfoundation.org
  3. Arise: Arise believe that all families should thrive.  How this happens is through Family strengthening & preservation as well as adoption advocacy programmes. Arise creates professionally taught and facilitated therapeutic and support groups for both children and adults.
    1. Website: arisefamily.org
    2. Call: 021 633 4058
    3. Email us: info@arisefamily.org
  4. New Day – https://www.newdayunited.org/
  5. Outliers: Their mission is to build capacity in after-school programs through training, resourcing, and connecting to opportunities.
    1. Website: outliers.org.za
    2. Email: info@outliers.org.za
  6. The Sozo Foundation: They run five core projects that work to promote Education, Skills, Youth and Wellbeing in Vrygrond. These projects are Educentre, Eden, Design, Care and Youth Cafe.
    1. Website: thesozofoundation.org.za
    2. Call: 021 825 5529
  7. The Warehouse Trust: They support local church congregations towards justice-seeking action.
    1. Website: warehouse.org.za
    2. Call: 021 7611168
    3. Email: info@warehouse.org.za

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